friendship
Kat :: 10:38 am…is not a word I toss around lightly.
The way I see it
- if you value my company, you will seek it out on occasion. If I see you seeking out the company or conversation of others and not me, I will take that at face value. If I am the only one initiating contact, I will notice.
- If you lie to me, break promises, or are otherwise dishonest, you are making it clear to me that I cannot trust you. If I cannot trust you then by definition we are not friends.
- If you avoid me, ignore me, refuse to speak to me, refuse to spend time with me, or pull away from anything that resembles the way friends interact, then again, by definition we are not friends.
- Making claims of friendship with me, or caring about me, or being supportive of me, when you do not actually do any of those things, is utter bullshit. I doubt you’re fooling yourself, you’re certainly not fooling me, so just cop to it already and knock it off with the flowery promises.
I don’t do dishonesty, and I don’t do pretense or “keeping up appearances.” Either act like a friend or admit that you are not and get the hell out.
I am well and truly sick of bending over backwards to be understanding of you, to be accommodating of your feelings, to know that sometimes things (occasionally lots of things) go wrong for you, only to get none of that in return. When things go wrong for me, you disappear. When my feelings are hurt, you don’t understand. You just walk away.